…and she lived happily ever-after
Let us shatter the glass slipper so we can break the glass ceiling
Some of you may know that my family and I are huge Disney fans. Last year, we moved to Orlando, and I can honestly admit to spending some time in the parks. One of my earliest memories is that of my mother reading me the Cinderella fairytale. I asked for that story nightly until we broke the spine of my little golden book. Given the way you see little girls flocking to take pictures with their princess, put on some GLASS SLIPPERS or streaming the movie on the weekend, the mystic of a “happily ever after” is alive and well.
I, too, believe in love and living an amazing life with my prince charming. Yet, there was always one part to the story that never sat well with me, the GLASS SLIPPER. A shoe, in essence, that was a made to order, ill fitted, and uncomfortable symbol that women would fight and contort to fit in. Why? Because the rewards were ultimate love, happiness, wealth, freedom and maybe even power? Once I aged out of the time of fairytales and plastic princess tiaras, the GLASS SLIPPER came to symbolize the first chain that binds women, keeping them from attaining their full potential. The GLASS SLIPPER is like the yoke that binds us. It comes in only one size, and we must change whatever we must to fit into it.
In the 1980’s, Colette Dowling wrote her best seller “The Cinderella Complex” and women everywhere started exploring the concept that we inherently are afraid of being independent. As feminism became more prevalent, we moved away from letting our daughters embrace fairytale princess in the hopes of changing the narrative and giving them more empowered role models. While much of that may have made sense at the time, women today still give up their financial control to their male spouses and significant others. All of this has led me to the belief that maybe it wasn’t Cinderella that was the problem but her footwear and the society that raised her to believe that only by forcing herself into something limiting and uncomfortable could she attain her happiness.
This fits so tight it is cutting off my circulation
All women can tell you that many times the hardest thing we must overcome on our path to happiness and success is our own self-limiting beliefs, based on the conventions that have been drilled into us since we were little girls. As we grow, they become tighter, cutting off all chance to grow and blossom into the women we want to be. The GLASS SLIPPER is perfect for the would-be girl who is on her way to a new kingdom, but it will never allow her to walk the journey to becoming a queen. Financially, some of these beliefs are that women lack ability to understand financial concepts, that we must stick to antiquated division of marital responsibilities, and, ultimately, must belittle ourselves and our accomplishment so as to not bruise a partner’s fragile ego.
Recently the news cycle has been filled with interviews with Kathleen Buhle, former daughter-in-law of President Joe Biden. In her book, she chronicles not just her tumultuous marriage but also how she gave up all financial decision making to her ex-husband, Hunter. She bares herself to the reader and shares how she buried her head in the sand when it came to their finances. Ultimately, it was her divorce that caused, her like many before, to face the impact of her financial apathy. Kathleen is a college educated entrepreneur who had many advantages growing up. Yet, she found herself in the same situation as women who have had far less. The corrosive indoctrination of women sees no race, creed, or socio economics, it equally stifles women around the world.
The higher the heel the closer the glass ceiling
We can shatter our princely confines and start to grow into royalty. The question is how do we let go of things that have stunted us but also been such a part of us and ourselves grow? How do you achieve a state of “Empowered Finances”? The answer is education. “Empowered Finances” is the ability to make decisions and plans with your money that help you achieve the goals that reflect your passions and values. Getting here takes work and, at times, a little help. A financial coaching program can make all the difference. The programs here at Empowered Worth® were designed with that goal in mind. The cornerstone of both the Worthy and Empowered Programs is a positive money mindset with the goal of changing how you view yourself and your wealth. When this education begins, we can truly find ourselves in a transformation that allows to not just reach the glass ceiling professionally and financially but break through it.